When I wake up each day I immediately know what I have to do each day. I have a plan for each and every day, and this is how I maximize what I get done in a day.
I call it living purposefully.
My life certainly hasn’t always been like this though. It wasn’t too long ago where for lack of a better way to describe it, I simply felt like life just happened to me.
It was as though whatever was going to happen to me each day was going to happen no matter what and I felt helpless to change it.
In essence I felt like a passenger in my own life watching as everything “happened” to me.
I would often say things like “shit happens”, when in reality I was in some way responsible.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying I was a useless blob on a couch, I was still a busy personal trainer and helped tons of people, but there was nothing guiding the direction my life was taking.
Fast forward many years, and I guess I would say that having kids was really the big catalyst for some pretty amazing changes in my life.
The reality that I need to to be a leader for my family and that nobody else can make it happen except me, really helped shift a few big obstacles in my mind.
There was no magical awakening of brilliance or performance, but I did stop doing one thing… and that one thing… was making excuses for everything that “happened to me”.
What I finally came to realize is that I am the driver and captain of my own ship… and at the time of this realization I was on a crash course with a terrifying place called Nowhere!
Becoming aware that I alone was responsible for the non-direction of my life was a difficult pill to swallow, but it did one tiny thing that in the end has made a huge difference in my life… I finally realized that I had been all along making choices (and many were pretty bad choices) on a daily basis, and that I could make different choices it I wanted to.
So I did. I started making better choices. And what is critical to understand is that when you choose to do the same thing over and over, it becomes a habit.
So instead of unconsciously making the same bad choices (and allowing my bad habits to continue to exist), I started making better choices.
I should add that I haven’t ALWAYS made better choices, often I have allowed the old unconscious habitual choices to “just happen” to occur again, but when I did and the same negative outcomes resulted, it really helped to cement in my mind that it was MY CHOICE that brought the negative result.
For me at least, there is no such thing as a magical awareness. I have to make an effort on a daily basis to be as aware as possible about the choices I’m making to ensure the results I want.
This is what I call Living Purposefully.
It is making purposeful choices (behaviors and actions) about how you will live to get the result you want.
Exercising and eating well have not traditionally been where I’ve had trouble. My difficulties have been more in my personal and professional life.
But wherever your difficulties lie, if you choose to Live Purposefully each and every day, I can guarantee you can change your life significantly.